It’s not a coincidence that the happiest parents and kids are from the same country - the Netherlands. Dutch parents see happiness as a means to success, rather than success as a means to happiness, and encourage their kids to embrace this early on. So what does this look like for kids?

Dutch parents are actually happier than those without children in the Netherlands, with their children ranking highest in the United Nations report on children’s wellbeing in rich countries. Most English speaking countries, including the UK and US, ranked low on the list. Let’s explore how Dutch parents approach parenthood.

Remember the safety announcement before every flight? Adults must put on their own oxygen masks first before helping their kids. Similarly, you must ensure your own basic needs and wellbeing are generally met, before you’re able to meet those of your children long term.

Up to two thirds of parents are burnt out, especially after the pandemic. Parents get lots of advice around how to deal with extended periods of stress - make time for self care, get enough sleep, and find better ways to communicate with the family. However, most parents actually feel guilty about taking better care of themselves. This is a result of the limiting beliefs they carry, beliefs stemming from childhood and what society has taught us about caregiving, manifesting in us as adults.